The Ex Factor: Here We Go Again.

Three weeks ago, my boyfriend and I had a conversation that involved me telling him he needed to get himself out of debt so that we could starting preparing to start a family and live happily ever after.

Three days ago, we had a massive fight because he forgot I existed at a massive event he invited me to, got trashed, made an ass out of himself and ruined my night, my anniversary and my weekend.

Three hours ago, he told me that he was borrowing money to pay for his step-kid AND THE FUCKING EX to go to Disneyland.

The Ex Factor What the fucking fuck?!

I’m trying to work out if he has a death wish or if he’s just plain fucking dumb. Let me just remind you of the fact that he didn’t even bother to get me a card for our anniversary, and he didn’t actually buy me a birthday present either. He’s seriously taking the piss now, isn’t he?

I can understand him paying for the step-daughter to go to Disneyland because that’s what he said he was going to do for her birthday back in December. That’s fine. I’m aware of that, and was prepared for it. What I am not, and was not prepared for is the fact that he’s having to pay for his ex to go to Disneyland too. That’s not cool. I wanna go to Disneyland. How come she gets it?

We don’t seem to be having a very good time right now. A lot of things seem to be going wrong, and to be honest, I’m running out of excuses that I can use for him. After the weekend’s drunken performance, I’m surprised he had the balls to spring this latest load of bullshit on me. Kudos to him for throwing shit on top of shit. He’s brave, that’s for sure.

What’s up with that though? Why does he need to pay for his ex to go to Disneyland? Can’t she pay for he town ticket? Isn’t that what parenthood is all about? Compromise? Meeting halfway? She’s hardly skint herself. Why can’t she pay for her own damn ticket? When I asked how much it would cost, I had intended to lending him the damn money myself. He can go fuck himself now I know it’s for her too. I genuinely don’t understand why he thought I’d think that was OK? Is he really that deluded? How much weirder does their relationship need to get?

So what do I do now? Do I let him come over later so we can inevitably have that fight? I’m still on my period and in no mood for his shit, so that fight will definitely happen. Do I have a right to get upset about this? Does he have the right to ask me to be OK with this? How do I figure this out? What do I do now?

Help. 

5 thoughts on “The Ex Factor: Here We Go Again.

  1. wow…. ok, is this douchebag name Rick or Paul?? because boy you brought back some memories from dating past.

    Let me just say ….. cut your losses now and get out!!! When I was dating Rick, he was still hung up on his ex wife but I didn’t find this out until we moved in together and saw it for myself. He would send money to his stepson all the time and also help her out financially……….seriously, she cheated on HIM yet he kept talking to that bitch and funding her stupid habits.

    I realized that once I took off my rose colored glasses that I was just an idiot and allowed this to take place…….I made excuses for his behavior ….actually for THEIR behavior…..but for some reason I had hope that things would change, that somewhere in that heart they would choose me and take me out of dating hell. you know what I learned…..it wasn’t their responsilbity to take me out of dating hell, it was mine. My choices in men had to change !!!

    This man of yours isn’t making you a priority …. he is making his ex a priority…..and if he has to borrow money to fund their trip then he is putting himself more in debt. Why can’t he just tell her no?

    Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t respect you.

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