It was exactly one year ago today that I wrote the post “10 Things it’s Still OK to do at the Age of 26…” which became one of the most popular posts on the blog at one point. Thanks to all of those that appreciated it 😉
Some things haven’t changed. In fact, none of the previous list has changed at all – I still do all of those things. I feel like I should add things to the list now I’m another year older and apparently wiser (although I’m not sure) so here we go…
10 – It’s okay to still be making mistakes!
I totally thought I’d have my shit together by now. I’m nowhere near ready to be an adult yet. My boyfriend lives in a trailer, I’m currently only just moving out of the house I shared with family into a house share. A fucking house share. I sound like a tourist.
I’m still making loads of mistakes. I’m still spending far too much money on things that aren’t worth it. I drink too much coffee. I smoke too much pot. I love too hard and too easily. I start fights when they don’t need to be started. I make mistakes each and everyday and you know what; it’s fine because one day, I will eventually learn. Or so my mother keeps telling me.
9 – It’s okay not to be completely over him over two years later!
I wish someone would have told me two years ago that I would still feel like shit about my last “Big” breakup. Big Love is still in my heart and my head almost every day. It’s not as much as it was before but he’s definitely still haunting me in some way. It’s okay though. I have now fully accepted that he is going to be someone that I pine for, for a long time. Girls – it’s okay to find it hard to get over him. You know that post I wrote – How long does it take to get over someone? The answer is years in some cases!
8 – It’s okay to wish for a night of frivolous passion!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m more than happy with my sex life right now with Jock. More than happy. I’m a very lucky girl, that’s all I’m saying. But… there is a part of me that still lusts after a night of sex that doesn’t make sense like with The Lapdog or My Mr. Grey. A night of drug-fuelled sex, or a night of fisting. I just want the whole world, don’t I? Lol!
Seriously though, is it so bad to want to have the best sex of your life every once in a while? Is there really anything so bad about that? I don’t think so…
7 – It’s okay to change an entire sentence because you couldn’t spell one word!
I do this on a regular basis. For example, I can’t spell the word rhythym. Rhtyhm. Rhythm. Got there in the end but even then, auto-correct needed to lend a hand. If I can’t spell a word, it really frustrates me. To the point where I will even ignore the message altogether if the sentence won’t go right.
6 – It’s okay to do the sniff test on questionable clothing!
As much as I would love a closet as organised as Carrie’s in Sex and the City, I’m really a mess when it comes to my personal life so anything less than relatively untidy is pretty optimistic. My room always looks like a bomb has hit it and you know what, I’ve accepted the fact that this is one of my many flaws. I tidy up for when company arrives, of course, but when left to my own devices, I’m pretty much a disaster. I’m always needing to sniff various items of clothing to make sure they are really clean before I put them on. I try to keep the clean and dirty piles separate on the floor but it’s proving to be rather difficult. It’s okay though, once I get rich I’m going to get a cleaner. Or maybe hire my Mama to do my laundry! 😉
5 – It’s okay to cry on your Mama during a blood test!
Honestly, I may have multiple piercings and tattoos but getting blood tests and having needles anywhere near me seriously affects my chi. I have a habit of hyperventilating out of fear when a needle comes towards me. This means that I often pass out. Luckily, my Mama agrees to come with me on as many occasions as she can, so she’s accepted me crying into her armpit while the nasty nurse stabs me with her painful weapon.
4 – It’s okay to love the TV shows you wanted to hate!
I really wanted to hate the TV show Breaking Bad with a passion. Everyone raved about it, just like they did with 24, Lost, Prison Break and the rest of them. For the most part, I’ve either completely avoided watching them or didn’t get into them. In the case of Breaking Bad, I was hooked from the very first episode I watched. If you haven’t seen it yet, you should probably give it a shot. It’s the most brilliant TV show, written by an utter genius. Well, that’s my opinion anyway.
The thing is I wanted to hate it. I don’t generally go with the flow or follow conventional fashions. Sadly, I broke into the mainstream spell and loved the TV show. I did try to hate it though…
3 – It’s okay to irrationally strop whenever you feel like it!
I genuinely feel sorry for Jock because he gets the brunt of my strops when they happen to arise. When I get the right hump, I get the right hump. It’ll be over nothing too, especially if it happens to come at the wrong time of the month, which happens more often than not. I don’t want him to touch me but if he sits on the other couch and doesn’t pay me any attention, I feel unloved. I want food but everything he suggests makes me want to vomit. I want to watch a Disney film but when he puts it on, I get angry at him for turning the TV show I was watching over. God I feel really sorry for the guys out there. You have a lot of shit to deal with.
Girls – it’s okay to have this irrational strop. Any guy worth a chance will just support you through them. Jock has learned how to deal with met almost perfectly. Your guy will too if you train him well!
2 – It’s okay to STILL not have your finances sorted.
I said it last time and I’ll stay it again. In fact, I think my financial situation is worse than it was a year ago. I’m an expensive girl with an expensive lifestyle it would seem. I’m slowly getting everything back up to scratch again. It’s taking a while but we’re getting there.
1 – It’s still okay to not know what you want!
I do want to get married but I don’t. I do want kids but I definitely don’t. I do want my day job but I don’t. I do want to be a full time writer but I don’t. I am confident in my work but I’m not. I smoke but I don’t.
I don’t have a clue what the fuck I want, and I’m almost one hundred percent sure I’m not the only one. To be honest, I don’t exactly care at this point. You know that thing they say that you’ll stop giving a fuck with age? It’s actually true. I know I’ve lost weight but at the same time, I’m starting to not have so many hang-up’s about my body. I’m getting more body confident and wearing things I would never have worn before. Who cares if I don’t know what I want? I’ll get where I’m meant to be going, I’m sure.
So there you have them – the ten things I’m still doing at the ripe old age of 27 going on 28. I still got a whole lot of growing up it would seem.
What do you think? Anything you feel like adding to the list? Do you agree with mine? I’d love to know what you think!