The Art of Blowjobs

So I have a predicament. I’m teetering on giving up on giving One Ball a blowjob with the hope of him climaxing my mouth. I love giving head – it’s one of my favorite things to do to a guy. It still hasn’t happened after all this time – he still hasn’t cum in my mouth. What the fuck?

We have tried, people; we have really tried.

He had a 45 minute blowjob out of me. Nothing.

We tried him not jerking off for a week or so before he sees me. Nothing. That was the weekend I went up to see him – See A Naughty Weekend, The “L” Word, and Running into a Bathroom Door.

We’ve tried making that the first thing we do when we see each other after a long period away. Nothing.

We have tried me on my knees. Him sitting up. Him standing up. Him lying down. Me leaning over him, letting him play with my nipples. Nothing.

We’ve tried me on my back, him literally squatting over my face. Then we tried him kneeling over my chest, thrusting into my mouth. This seemed to get him the closest. But yet, nothing.

We’ve even tried this in the car because he loves outdoor sex. Nothing.

He’s getting a complex out of it now because I think he can see that it frustrates me. I’ve always been renowned for my blowjobs. That makes me sound like a whore but I couldn’t give a shit. My blowjobs are the best. I put so much effort into them and I REALLY enjoy giving head, so they are enthusiastic, wet, sloppy and fucking awesome. I know this. The men that have cum in my mouth know this. There’s a pretty extensive list. What the fuck is it gonna take to get One Ball to know this?!

He says he enjoys my blowjobs of course, but it always feels like he just gives up and fucks me instead. I can see the frustration in his eyes in much the same way that he can see it in mine. Apparently this happens in all of his relationships and no one has ever made him cum in their mouths either. He has cum in mine but that took a bit of work and him basically jerking off into my mouth. It doesn’t count. Not in my eyes anyway.

He said that my mouth has felt really good recently. He always gets to the point where he is going to cum but then can’t seem to top himself over the edge. And neither can I. I’ve figured out how he likes it – he doesn’t like me to use my hands unless I am holding the base of his cock tightly, or lightly grasping his one ball. He seems to really enjoy it when I play with myself at the same time so this is something I’m definitely going to try again.

He likes me to use my lips to rub the top of his huge shaft, not pulling the foreskin back too much. I said the word foreskin. This is actually turning into a fucking theorist’s problem. I may as well bring equations into the mix. Anyway, he likes the top being sucked. Every now and again throw in a bit of deep-throating to make him do these cute little appreciative groans that he does. However, once I pick up speed, there is no mixing things up. I must continue the way I am – sucking the top of his cock hard, making sure my tongue laps it up. Fast and hard. His legs start to shake, his fists grasp my bed sheets and he breathes these tiny, shallow breaths – at this point I have tried keeping up the pace, and slowing things down, as well as mixing it up at the last minute, and still no sign of his orgasm.

I was getting worried at one point but then a few things popped into my head to make me give myself a break. Number one – it takes this guy an age to cum at any time, whether it is my hand, my pussy or my mouth. Number two – apparently I’m not the only girl that has given up on him. I haven’t given up yet though… Number three – he only has one ball. This has got to account for something, right?

I have a plan this time though. The next time I see him, this guy is climaxing into my mouth if it is the last thing I do. He’s going to come in and I’m going to march him up my stairs. I’m going to be in a long sweater dress and my new heeled suede boots that come to just above my knee. You know – the little sexy spot! Under my sweater dress I’m going to be wearing a matching underwear combo. Something black and hot. I’m going to be wearing a suspender belt with stockings. I have the cutest stockings that are black with a red seam up the back and red bows at the top. I’m going to sit him in my computer chair, take my sweater off in front of him so he can see my hooker-like get up, and drop to my knees. I’m going to play with him as well. I’m going to kiss the tops of his legs and groin until he begs me to suck his cock. I’m going to sit back and let him watch me as I play with myself on the floor. If he doesn’t keep his hands to himself, I’ll tie him to my chair. He keeps telling me that he wants me to be more assertive in the bedroom. Well if he wants assertive, he can have assertive.

I’m going to suck his cock like my life depends on it. He’s getting the full treatment – I cleverly bought flavored lubricant. I have a couple of small toys that I can use on him and me. I might pop my love egg in and give him the remote for it. I’m in this for the long haul – I will worship his manhood. He will feel like a fucking King.

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I don’t know if this is the sort of thing that I should be freaking out about after six months or whatever of dating. This is pathetic, right? However this is a big fucking deal for me! I love giving head. No, let me rephrase that – I love it when a guy cums in my mouth. My relationship with him is virtually perfect but this has suddenly come to a head. Excuse the pun.

It’s funny how this became such a big thing. It’s been a reoccurring bug throughout our relationship, but we recently had a Skype conversation with me high, reading him what I had said about him in 10 Things I Hate About You. I chose not to say a few choice points, and he got annoyed by this because it just made him felt that there were things that I couldn’t tell him and he didn’t want a relationship like that. I chose not to tell him that his kisses were sometimes more sloppy than they should be. I wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings and if anyone said that to me, I would be devastated. It’s not a big problem anymore – I said that we were adapting together.

Apparently it bothered him enough for us to have our first fight today. He told me that I was making him paranoid and shitty because there were things I “hated” about him that I couldn’t tell him to his face. I got annoyed because he should have been grateful for the tiny little insight I was giving him into my blog, and he shouldn’t have to dig for anymore. It is still personal to me – it’s still my own little space. I may talk about it from time to time with him, but that isn’t giving him an open pass to find out what he likes.

I said to him today, after we had made up and calmed down, that if he really wanted to know them, he should Skype me later and I would tell him. If he’s brave enough to want to hear whatever horrible little things I have to say about him, good luck to him. Although to be honest, none of them are particularly bad in nature.

Let’s just hope I have a boyfriend left to dress up for and dominate, desperately trying to get him to cum in my mouth once this conversation is done with.

Oh and I did a bad thing. I text The Lapdog…..

 

13 thoughts on “The Art of Blowjobs

  1. I know for the longest time I never came with a man at all and when they put pressure on me it made it worse. It made me feel like a failure for not being able to cum for them and with them. What finally worked was a man not saying a word about it but putting me in a position where I had no choice but to relax and just enjoy whatever he was doing to me. He pinned me down and went down on me and he obviously was enjoying himself and making that clear to me!! I came so many times that night with both his tongue and his cock! Another thing he did was turn off the lights and leave us in moonlight with sexy music playing so I would be more comfortable.

    I think men and women are really the same in a lot of ways. Take the pressure off of him and just let him relax and see how much you are enjoying his cock. Eventually he will relax enough to cum.

    My theory is that men and women who are givers in the bedroom have a harder time with this. I am like that and so is the Professor. He’s never cum during a blowjob before in his life and I suspect its because he is so focused on making the woman cum. I used to be that way with men but then I let go and started allowing myself to relax more and receive rather than worry so much about him. Now I cum a lot more.

  2. Have you tried refusing to suck his cock to the point that is annoys him so much he’ll just be so grateful to have your mouth around it when you eventually do it will feel ridiculously more intense and cumworthy?

  3. Practice rotating your wrist and move transfer the movement to his cock- twist and pull- allows you to increase pressure or go slow.. It may work, it was a great tip from my partner and never failed to work, but every guy is different.. Just my 2 cents worth.. 🙂 xx L

  4. Sex is complicated. His inability to come in your or anyone else’s mouth has nothing to do with you enthusiasm or skill – sexual pleasure is always at the mercy of the brain. The question is not why he’s unable to come in your mouth, he obviously enjoys being with you – it’s why are you so upset about him not coming despite your best efforts. Sexual relationships are not games to be won, they are to be savored, appreciated and enjoyed. If you are so focused on his inability to climax during one specific act, are you both savoring your time together? I love your blog and honesty, but perhaps you might want to consider what is at the bottom of your own motives; that is probably a much more easy thing to figure out and resolve than his inability to climax here. There’s a lesson in here somewhere, and it’s more about you than it is about him.
    xoxo,
    Simone

    • I guess it’s the fact that I’ve never struggled before to make a man climax in my mouth. He says its frustrating too because no girl is successful. It’s not enough to destroy our relationship, of course, but it is a niggle that I get a feeling is driving us both mad. Aside from this, our sex life is AMAZING! Thanks for your comments & the reblog!

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  6. Everyone is different. But thought I would share what I think, maybe it will help.

    I guess as mentioned already, even though your desire to please is very nice, loving and sexy.. you shouldn’t take it personally nor as a failure if you couldn’t get him to cum the way you want.

    I believe most guys like it when a woman suck on their cocks without using their hands because it looks sexy, it makes them see more action and see their cocks bigger in the mouth of their lovers. But usually sensation-wise hands (especially with the right amount of saliva/lube) can do miracles with your mouth. So I would say that you shouldn’t dismiss the idea of using your hands to stimulate his shaft, experiment with it, even if he said that he doesn’t like it much, he still uses his own hands to jerk off, so it I guess it’s only a matter of finding the right way to stroke him.

    Personally, when a woman focuses too much on sucking the head of my cock, I get too sensitive and it gives me this sensation that I am so close to cumming yet I am too sensitive to enjoy it and actually cum. I prefer a 4:1 ratio, four deeper sucks then one hard suck on the head of my cock 😀 of course playing around with that ratio is fun too. Just don’t focus too much on the head (at least for me)

    It can be psychological. Due to my line of work, I have met some guys who said that there were times that they couldn’t cum with oral sex even though they wanted it so bad and even fantasized and exploded to the thought of it. And that was because they think it’s “bad” or “disgusting” because of their upbringing.

    Suggest that he closes his eye and think about something that he wants, a fantasy, even say it to you out loud (which might be hot for you too). He can even watch porn while you are sucking him. Or try 69 (that’s a win-win). Just things that can totally take his mind off the act and just leave him with the sensation of your mouth around him.

    Finally, try mutual masturbation. Masturbate with him as you two watch each other, let him tell you when he is about to cum, tell him that you want his cum in your mouth. or maybe tell him that you want it on your tits and then guide him to your mouth, just to make sure he is not thinking about it and take the pressure off him.

    Let us know the updates and happy sucking! 🙂

    • It’s just so frustrating! Thanks for all of your comments though, I will definitely try a few of them. The worst of it is, everything that people have commented on here, we have tried. He has watched porn, we have mutually masturbated, (that’s actually what causes the first almost-cuming in my mouth before)…. It’s annoying because everything that has worked with guys before, and I know they aren’t all the same so I know the importance of mixing it up, doesn’t work. It’s fun trying though and I certainly won’t give up. I just really want to be the girl that makes him cum in her mouth…. I really want to be the first girl that makes him do that, you know? Is that silly?

      Thanks so much for your comment, much appreciated as always! Can’t wait to see him… It’s going to be so much fun hahaha! 🙂

  7. Personally, I like the hands to be used in coordination with the mouth. So I am surprised to hear of two men who don’t like the feel of that. We are all unique it seems.

    He has a block. It has happened to me. Theories: 1) It might be because he respects you too much and subconsciously views that as disrespectful (sort of Madonna Whore complex with oral). 2) He might subconsciously think of the fact you’ve done it with other men and it mind-fucks him. This is healthy jealous though because it means he is in to you. [do not mention this!] 3) You two may have put so much pressure on your selves that he is now too uptight to do it. ie, thinking about it too much.

    Once you get over the hump a few times it won’t be an issue.

    IDEAS:

    1) Put on some porn while you are doing it.
    2) Do you know how to look up and make eye contact with him while the dick is in your mouth? That is big for many of us…
    3) Do you make supportive noises while you are doing it? (like an affirmative ‘uh-ha’)
    4) At the right time do you say “let it go baby” or “please fill my mouth up” or something along those lines?
    5) Tried 69?
    6) Have you intercourse and then at the last minute switched to oral right before he climaxes? (Be sure to tell him you like to taste yourself. If he is naughty he will like that).
    7) Can you make him cum with a handjob? If so get him to the brink and then switch on him.
    * For #6 & #7 it should be a surprise switch without warning so he never has time to think about it.
    8) Tie him up and blindfold him. Make him sit back and relax and listen to you. In a soft voice tell him a detailed fantasy of yours. That you want to watch another woman give him a BJ. Walk him through the fantasy in titillating detail. Even if you are lying tell him how much it turns you on to watch her suck him. Tell him how back you want to watch him cum in/on her. Make him tell you how bad he want that and then make him think about the other woman sucking him when you go down on him. That may help him get over his mental block.

    Just some ideas! Sex is very much personal preference, but I think it is awesome that you put thought into trying to please him. A lucky man.

    • Wow that was an epic comment! Loved it!

      I do make affirmative noises, and I have used a mixture of hands and no hands. We’ve even tried fucking and then switching it up at the last minute…. And no the handjob doesn’t work either. It even takes him forever to cum when he is jerking off while I’m in the room. I suggested watching porn as we do it and he said he doesn’t want to because he wants to enjoy what he has in front of him… Which I’m assuming is me 🙂

      I take forever to get ready in the morning and he has started doing this super awesome thing where he secretly jerks off while I’m doing my thing and getting ready. When he is ready to cum, he says my name so that when I look around, I notice he is jerking off and wander over for him to cum in my mouth. I’ve cottoned on now and I know he’s jerking off, but I pretend not to notice. Even when he jerks off it seems to take him a long time, porn or otherwise. He doesn’t like listening to the noises of porn either, he just watches so its not even as if I can put it on as back ground noise. He’s an odd one that’s for sure and I do love a good challenge. I’ve also asked him to cum in my mouth mid-BJ and fuck… I’m starting to think that maybe it is something in his head, although he protests this. And he loves it when I look up at him when sucking him off. He says I have this massive innocent eyes and he loves it. You have presented some good ideas though. I haven’t tied him up yet… I may try this when he comes back down my way. Only 8 sleeps to wait…

      Once again, thanks for your super awesome comment. I shall keep trying, that’s for sure, and of course I will be sure to tell you my tales.

      🙂

  8. Ok. Just found your blog. Amazing to say the least. So based on some reading ive been doing and the fact i have never sucked my guy of 10 years to completion I need to know how to suck. I do tend to scrape my teeth. And gag. What’s the secret ? I really want to suprise him.

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